Do we really have it easier? Yes we…the SAHM (stay-at-home-moms). A lot of people surely thinks so. Judging from the comments people make to me ( at least) when they hear that I’m a housewife now instead of a high flying trolley dolly or a hold a 9-5 job.
“Wah!! Enjoy lah now… Can be a ‘tai-tai’ lor.”
Well… I guess if you look at it from a point where
- I don’t have to wake up at 7am
- fight traffic to get to work at 9am.
- attend endless meetings
- datelines to meet
- reports to submit
- get scolding from bosses…
Or rather in a another life that I use to live in, when I was a trolley dolly, a typical day would be…
- wake up at God knows what hour
- put on my face
- wait for van
- plaster on a smile for passengers and my workmates (even thought I’m feeling like screaming inside)
- handling passengers endless request from wanting more leg room to can you upgrade me to having to eat chicken or they’ll break out in a rash to ‘the toilets are stuck’…kind of flight (which pretty much describes every flight)
- a normal person’s work day may be about 8 hrs or a little more. But for us trolley dollies it can go up till 12hrs or more.
- sexual harassment
And when you finally arrive at your destination,be it overseas or home base, you feel like you just been to hell and back. So much for seeing new places and meeting people… all you’ll be seeing is your hotel room and the meeting the hotel receptionist when you check out. “Have a nice flight!” So yeah, if you base on that… yes, I guess it’s easier now. But like every story has two sides to it. Wanna know what a SAHM do everyday?
- Still have to wake up at 7am to take kiddo to school,sometimes can be lazy when Daddy is not on flight. (kekeke)
- Bath and feed screaming baby
- marketing or grocery shopping (sometimes can sneak away for breakfast with other Mommies)
- Do endless housework
- Pick kiddo from school
- Feed 2 ever demanding kids,most of the time when we are eating out,people(working people on lunch break) will be staring at us because both of them are so loud and often ‘redecorating’ the restaurant for them.
- Nap time (this is my favorite time of the day…) Also time to catch up on house chores and sometimes scrapping time and blogging time.
- evening the madness starts all over again till bedtime at night at 10pm
The hardest part of being a SAHM is really not in the work or taking care of the kids. It’s constantly being with the kids that drives you close to insanity, you feel like you could just strangle them to death!! And
- you don’t have a 5 o’ clock (no happy hour or girlie lunch breaks)
- no weekends (you work all the time 24-7)
- No sick leave (Mommy,I want this. Mommy I want that. Mommy why are you sleeping I want to play…)
- you look like hell all the time (those Mommies that look all decked out to the nines in the morning are inhuman or they have this thing called a maid to get the lil’ monsters ready for school while they put on their face. Other Mommies like me, get a huge sunnies that covers half of my face so that I won’t scare other children or parents while trying to look stylish)
- you no longer get to really enjoy your meal( most of the time you’ll eat after the kids or eat their leftovers,which looks anything but delectable)
- no more sexy wrap dresses or cute little tops (unless you want give a little ‘free show’ in public)
- you’ll develope an immunity to disapproving eyes. (very useful as your children starts screaming uncontrollably or do something embarrassing in public)
- being stuck in traffic is bad enough… being stuck in traffic with two screaming kids is hell. (you’ll be wondering which one to throw out first or should I just drive over the cars in front of us)
There… those are just a few of the things I go through in a day… I wouldn’t say that I don’t enjoy life now.. I do. What more can I ask for? I get to be with my two children and be the person to attend to their every needs, I there for them when they need me. I’m the first person they see when they wake up or when they get hurt. I don’t miss any ‘first times’… Not many Mommies can do that and I do admit that I am very fortunate in that sense. But hey…I’m just saying..I need a break sometimes. And stop all the stupid comments…pleeaaasee! You have no idea what we might have just gone through in the morning or a few seconds prior to your silly remark.It just gets to us! And no… we SAHMs DON’T necessarily have it easier…even the ones that have a maid. And if you secretly wish you were a SAHM well.. Why not? It’s the best for the kids. Just make sure you are in a very sound state of mind or get friendly with the Doc… so that you can have steady supply of Prozac of course.
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